Personality and what’s the Genuine You?
-by David Dubb
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Personality like several matters in life is kind of solid and can be challenging to define
occasionally. The more common definition is the relatively balanced characteristics
that are enduring and distinguishing which implies that it separates people from the
crowd. Psychologists who study personalities try to psychoanalyze why people
behave differently in varied situations, such as how come one person is shy when they
first encounter a stranger or, while some people are simply natural and amusing. A
few scientists conceive that these are genetically engraved and that people do not have
much control over this. Other psychologists believe that the surroundings bear an
important say in the manner people behave. The reality is that personality is a multi
dimensional issue and requires pieces from several theories since everyone is unique.
One theory is the psychodynamic perspective which was identified by Sigmund
Freud. This theory fundamentally states that personality simply exists on the surface
and to find someone's true personality you have got to delve deep in their mind.
Psychologists who favor this approach consider that personality is an unconscious
mental process, or that the individuals are incognizant that they are conceited or
confident. He was recognized for his controversial theory that young boys bear a
sexual attraction to their mother, perhaps he was relating to himself and his romantic
relationship with his mother who was 20 years younger than his father. A theory
about the unconscious mind that creates reasonable sense is, when people having a
conversation call someone they know a different name. For example, if a woman
ended a relationship with her boyfriend and got a new boyfriend and calls her present
boyfriend by her ex boyfriend's name, it could signify that he is still in her thoughts.
Freud also conceives that dreams hold important motives in behavior. He also
believed that personality could be built into layers suchlike an ice berg. The
component that is buried well below the water is the id or the unconscious aspect. A
good example is children, because many times they pursue pleasure without thinking
about the end result. If folks would have a strong id personality, this would be a very
chilling place to live. People would pursue natural impulses instead of meeting
society norms. The ego is pleasant to have because it assists people to recognize
reality and help meet society norms. For example, many people realize that they can’t
have their sex and hostility levels high and unmanaged because once they let it go it
usually leads to crimes suchlike rape for one. Lastly, the superego also referred as the
conscious aspect is the moral decider. It decides what is right and what is wrong.
Several psychologists did not adopt Sigmund Freud's unconscious theory. One
psychologist that was to a great extent against it was Alfred Adler. He believed that
people were motivated by aims and goals in order to achieve something in life. He
also believed that people have the power to be well aware of what’s going on in their
lifespan and to consciously monitor their daily events. He also believed that people
attempt to compensate for things they do not possess. For example, an individual that
attempts to be superior may being doing it due to their own insecurities merely
because they will feel better about themselves by bringing others down. This theory
was called "individual psychology", in which states that people are motivated by
purposes and to achieve goals. When people seek to overcome their insecurities this is
called compensation.
When psychologists disregard the unconscious they tend to look at the surroundings
more, when determining personality, this is known as the "behavior approach". They
conceive that you are able to only determine personality by what you see on the
outside surface. For example, if someone is shy, works hard and is motivated to
achieve something, this is a part of their personality. This theory was founded by an
early psychologist named Burrhus Frederic Skinner. He also believed that a person’s
personality could change due to the stress with the surroundings, so he believed that
personality was never consistent. Now, a person who is shy could be tilted to become
aggressive and out going, and a person who is out going could be tilted into a shy
personality all due to their environment. If an individual is applying a positive
strengthener for a particular behavior, it is more likely that it will come up again in
the future.
A different approach from Freud and Skinner’s theory is the humanist approach
discovered by Carl Roger. This approach is less pessimistic; it finds the good in
mankind and conceives that humans have the freedom to choose their own fate. The
fundamental idea in Roger’s approach is self concept, which is an individual’s view of
their own abilities, behavior, traits, and personality. If a person experiences a twisted
self concept then most likely they will be awkward to hang around and associate with.
When psychoanalyzing self concept Rogers talked of identifying yourself between the
real self and the ideal self. The ideal self is the character of person we would like to
be. If an individual bears a large conflict between their real self and the type of person
they would like to be then the clumsier or maladjusted they will act. To adjust this we
should try to focus more on our real self and develop a positive view on it, stop caring
what other people want or expect of us and attempt to have more positive experiences
in our daily lives. Another way we can help develop a more positive view of our real
self is by a concept known as "unconditional positive regard". This term could be
defined as: accepting different individuals regardless of their behavior which is rather
difficult to do. When an individual is being rude, aggressive, or disrespectful, they
still need support and to be loved. This does not mean you need to hug someone after
they punch you, but more like “I don’t like the way you are behaving but I still care
about you and respect you as a person.”
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